Survey Finds Gen Z Turning to Reverse-Psychology Flirting
A new survey from Indian dating platform QuackQuack indicates that a notable share of Gen Z users are embracing a less direct, more playful approach to flirting – using what is being called “reverse-psychology” dating. Rather than straightforward compliments or overt expressions of interest, many are opting for sarcasm, subtle hints, or humour to test compatibility while keeping emotional risk low.
According to the survey, 22% of Gen Z daters (aged 18–26) admitted they now flirt by saying the opposite of what they actually feel — not to manipulate but to create a self-aware, low-pressure atmosphere for conversations. Three in five respondents attributed this shift to an emotionally cautious communication style, suggesting a growing desire for authenticity without vulnerability overload.
One variation of this approach – known as the “anti-compliment” – is gaining popularity, especially among users in major Indian cities. Instead of praising directly, someone might say something like: “Stop being so funny. I’m trying hard not to fall for you.” This half-compliment, half-tease can signal interest without making the other person feel cornered or pressured.
Other flirting styles highlighted by the study include indirect hinting (where people prefer to “test the vibe” through veiled lines rather than direct admission) and “humour-masked interest,” whereby flirtation is wrapped in jokes or playful banter so that rejection feels less personal. According to the data, a large portion of young daters use humour to express potential interest while maintaining an easy exit: if things don’t land, they can always say “just kidding.”
This trend reflects broader shifts in how Gen Z perceives romance and connection. As many grow wary of the pressures and performances associated with traditional “perfect profile” dating — a phenomenon that older generations may have embraced — there’s an increasing appetite for subtlety, self-preservation, and honest emotional pacing. Simultaneously, younger daters appear more comfortable flirting indirectly, carrying a sense of emotional self-preservation that allows them to engage in dating without forcing commitment or expectation too soon.
