QuackQuack Shares Survey on Women’s Dating Boundaries

A recent survey by QuackQuack, India’s leading dating app, highlights how female daters perceive the balance between genuine interest and excessive pursuit. Conducted among 8,500 active female users aged 20 to 35 across major Indian cities, the study sheds light on how persistence in dating can quickly shift from appealing to overwhelming.

Given that other recent QuackQuack surveys have hinted at slower dating being more important, and that instant connection has fallen behind in favour of more conversation-heavy dating experiences, it’s understandable why careul dating approaches are much more desirable than simply being pursued.

According to the findings, two in five women appreciate effort in dating, but insistence beyond a certain point is a red flag. The app’s Founder and CEO, Ravi Mittal, emphasized the importance of emotional intelligence in modern dating, stating, “Lasting connection while dating online is directly proportional to striking a balance between persistence with effort and giving your match their space to decide whether they are ready to accept all that you have to offer. Only when there’s mutual interest is effort appreciated.”

Many respondents stressed the importance of recognizing subtle cues. Nearly 60% of women aged 25-30 believe that if a match does not respond within a reasonable timeframe, it should be taken as a lack of interest. Around 38% admitted feeling uncomfortable when someone continuously pursues a conversation despite receiving little or no engagement, especially if they have already tried to wind down the conversation due to a lack of interest.

The survey also delved into boundaries in digital interactions. About 28% of women from Tier 1 and 2 cities reported sharing their social media accounts with a match after a few weeks of chatting, but only 22% noted that respectful matches continue conversations within the dating app instead of pushing for interactions elsewhere – meaning that the majority will try to push for other platforms even if the woman isn’t ready for it.

Additionally, the study found that a “soft no” – phrases like “I’m busy” or “Let’s see” – were often used to signal disinterest, particularly among younger women. While these cues are meant to ease the conversation to a stopping point, it’s important to note that many daters won’t recognise them as such.